Offering sessions in the Hakomi Method.
relieving unnecessary emotional pain through mindful exploration.
Much of the stress, anxiety and depression that is experienced day to day arises from automatic patterns within our nervous systems.
These patterns are adaptations to past events in which we felt unsafe, overwhelmed or painfully unfulfilled in some basic way. These adaptations were laid down to allow us to cope and survive within those past circumstances and relationships. When they linger (as they tend to do) into later life, they can then be very limiting to our present lives creating and compounding unnecessary emotional pain and distress. Fortunately it is possible to retrain the nervous system through careful self-study and present-time exploration, and to build new adaptations that are more accurate to the life you are living and want to live now.
Hakomi is a method of assisted self study which can achieve this. A Hakomi therapist can assist you to examine your present experience and discover how the workings of those problematic adaptations are living within you in the present. Once these are brought into clearer awareness, they can be tested against present reality, adjusted and revised to be less limiting, more flexible, thus relieving unnecessary suffering.
Within a session the work has 3 main phases.
1. Preparation for self study. Initially we prepare by establishing a relationship which feels safe enough for the person to be with their present experience in an open way, in which enough compassion is conveyed to allow whatever arises in body and mind to be brought to awareness. The therapist has their full attention on the present experience of the other and is demonstrating that they are present and curious. Then we find things that we are curious to explore. Physical tension patterns, posture, tones and patterns in the voice, habitual movements, signs of emotion: all of these are governed by unconscious processes and bringing mindful awareness to them will give us information about these processes.
2. Self Study. So, to get this information we create experiments which allow us to bring the unconscious processes into awareness. These require that the person enters into mindfulness, a state in which they pay attention to their moment to moment experience without any attempt to change it, in which they are open and observing. With this established, something is offered or changed: small changes in posture, supportive words, a precise touch, deliberate movements each designed to evoke experiences which reveal the beliefs organising the habit patterns.
3. Healing. Lastly comes the healing phase of the method. Some of the beliefs we discover are limiting ones which create pain and close us down to certain possibilities. These beliefs have been created from painful experiences and are there to protect us from more pain. Unfortunately they also create more pain by narrowing our experience of what is possible and available. In the healing phase (integration) we are setting things up for the person to have an experience of the nourishment that is missing and allowing them to take this in.